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When Desire and Arousal Don’t Match, Understanding Arousal Non-Concordance with Haley Krenzke

Why does your body sometimes respond sexually when you don’t actually feel desire, attraction, or consent , and what does that mean for relationships, communication, and intimacy? Alternatively why does your body not respond when you’re mentally into the experience?

In this episode, Haley Krenzke joins me to unpack arousal non-concordance: something many people experience, and something we regularly hear in clinic. We explore how expectations about how our bodies “should” behave can create confusion, pressure, and disappointment in sex and relationships.

Together, we discuss what “normal” actually looks like, how to communicate more openly about desire and consent, and why better sex often starts with removing performance pressure, letting go of rigid expectations, and reconnecting with playfulness and curiosity.

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Host: Lauren Muratore

Guest: Haley Krenzke | www.luxsextherapy.com

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